Since I´ve had the pleasure of questioning my own perspectives on life, relationships and, well, my overall take on managing my life, I started to look other people too. How do people of different age and different background manage their life? I must say, it was quite revealing and shocking to watch.
It seems to be more a rule than anything else that instead of taking action themselves, people wait for something external to make decisions for them. When the impulse comes from the outside, it is easy to react on it and you don´t have to take responsibility for what has happened. Even when you know that you should do something yourself, it is comforting to let the world make the choices for you. I know, I have done that pretty much my whole life. Just going with the flow.
You need to be a victim first if you want to survive life. Being a martyr of your life is much easier than being the leader with all the decisions and responsibilities.
The worst thing about this selfvictimization is that it prevents you to become what you really could be (and are, inside). If you always wait for the moment when it is impossible NOT to act anymore, you lose so much. Waiting for the "MUST" means that something has already boiled over, gotten damaged or destroyed. You will finally end up losing something so valuable that you´ll always regret it. And then you can always blame life or the world for making it so.
So, what I try to do now is to learn to take a stand in my life. To listen to the signals and choose to act on them. I feel empowered by this idea. It feels like I´m not the victim and survivor of my life anymore. This is huge, considering that I`ve always described myself as a "survivor". It´s time to change the title. I want to be the creator of my life from now on.
Definitely worth a try, I´d say...
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